IT DEPENDS ON WHAT THE MEANING OF "ALL" IS: Over at SheThinks.org, Kate Kennedy makes an interesting point about women's desire to have it "all." Knowing yourself and what you really want is the key to having it all. If women who want to be mothers make that their "all," and if women who want a career outside the home make that their "all," and simply accept the trade-offs, both will be happier. For some women, happily balancing a career and motherhood may be possible, but for women like me -- and I don't think I'm alone -- happiness comes from figuring out what we want to do most in life, pursuing that goal, and accepting the trade-offs. Having it "all" doesn't have to mean having kids and a career; it can mean making a reasoned choice between the two.